Apology ultimatum

"I'm never talking to you until you apologise"

Is a shit way to try and win an argument.
It assumes superiority, it's sanctimonious.
It's hurtful.
It doesn't invalidate the other persons point of view even though you may think it does.
It just says you're unprepared to listen.
It is however effective at destroying relationships.
So if you ever said it to anyone, don't expect to talk to them again.

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